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How I Let Street Harassers Into My Head—and How I Got Them Out

“This is the story of how I stopped letting street harassment get to me. It’s hard to pinpoint when exactly it started to affect me, but one moment definitely stands out. I was waiting at a bus stop wearing a strapless shirt and shorts when a guy yelled out, “I’d love to bend you over,” and no one reacted.”

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This article originally posted September 30, 2013

Toying with it


I easily masturbate on average twice a day, once if I’m really tired. Unfortunately I haven’t invested in toys yet, but I’m wondering if I will eventually lose sensitivity. Does masturbating too much have any harmful side effects on my sex life?

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This question was originally asked September 17th, 2013

Do you kegel?

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“Like many women my age, I grew up on an unhealthy-but-steady diet of Cosmo magazines filled with articles like “How to Please Your Man” and “The Sex Positions that Will Blow His Mind. So the first time I heard of kegels, they were presented as this magical trick used to surprise any man with my incredibly tight love muscles! I was only thirteen (and didn’t have a man) but Cosmo was the Bible, so I took it very seriously…

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This question was originally asked September 10, 2013

Tighten up

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I recently started sleeping with a guy who has a penis that’s slightly smaller than what I would consider average. Everything leading up to the sex is great, but when we actually have sex, I don’t feel all that much (though certain positions work better than others). I’m worried because the last few guys I slept with were quite well endowed. Is it possible that they stretched me out? If so, is there anything I can do to reverse that?
– Vagina Worry

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This question was originally asked September 3rd, 2013

“In bed, everyone’s able.” – documentary on Sex and Disability

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The Last Taboo conveys a captivating and comforting story of six people with different physical disabilities and a fit partner who was in a relationship with one of them.

These persons share their outlooks on affection, connection, friendships, relationships and, according to their experiences, they share what they’ve learned about themselves. Basically, the overall idea of the film is that… “In bed, everyone’s able.”

The problem with the word “disability” is that it has a negative connotation from the get-go. It automatically implies that there’s something that somebody “can’t”, or something that somebody “isn’t”, and that becomes defining, foundational definition of the way somebody thinks of somebody and then it spills over everything including sexuality.

People will look at something and they’ll think it’s beautiful if it falls under certain guidelines and that is what puts so much stigma on the idea of someone with a disability being a sexual person, because people can’t quite connect the dots between the idea that someone has a non-normative body or presentation and the fact that they might be sexual.”


Interested in Analingus

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I’m a 24-year-old male and have been dating my girlfriend of the same age for a few months now. Our sex is great, but I’ve really wanted to just bury my face in her ass and lick it as well as her vagina. Would it be pleasurable for her if I lick her asshole, and can it be done safely? 

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This question was originally asked August 30, 2013

Letters from Cheaters

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Part of a bigger project called THE LETTERS PROJECT, the LETTERS FROM CHEATERS blog is a collection of reader submitted stories about being unfaithful. The project has since closed, so you’re out of luck if you were looking to submit your own, but you can still read past submissions.

I’m a sucker for honest, revealing POV stories and if you are too then you should check it out!