BDSM is about consent

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BDSM is a type of sex play that involves acts of bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. Some people derive pleasure directly from pain or violence, but for many, the excitement comes from the manipulation or subversion of power dynamics within relationships.

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Male Sexual Abuse

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This is a weird question to ask, but it’s a topic that I have rarely seen or read about in the media. I am a male in my mid-20s, and I was at a party recently where I think that I was sexually harassed, dare I say abused by this drunk girl. Everyone says that I am overreacting; now I feel guilty, dirty and undignified. Am I overreacting? —Anonymous

Check out what I had to say in The Link!

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This question was originally asked October 29th, 2013.

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The Menstrual Cup: Part II

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“Last week’s column was the first of a two-part feature on the Diva Cup, where I outlined my reasons for switching from tampons to a menstrual cup. This week, I’ll be sharing my personal observations since making the switch two years ago.”

For my thoughts on the menstrual cup check out the original article in The Link! sexandpancakesweb_800_1782.jpg This article was originally published October 21st, 2013.

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The Menstrual Cup: Part I

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“I used to see and experience my period the same way I still see many women around me do: as an inconvenience, as waste, as something gross or unnatural that my body did. But this all started to change after a column I wrote two years ago.”

For my thoughts on the menstrual cup check out the original article in The Link! sexandpancakesweb_800_1782.jpg This article was originally published October 15th, 2013.

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Too Short for Doggy Style?

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There is a large height difference between my lover and me, and we sometimes have a hard time finding a sex position we can both do. We’ve tried and failed to get into several more adventurous positions and end up getting stuck in the same old poses. I want to switch things up, but could I really be “too short” for doggy style?
—Position Problems

Check out what I had to say in The Link!

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This question was originally asked October 8th, 2013

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Yeast infection or Chlamydia?

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I always thought yeast infections and chlamydia were the same thing, but I recently had my first yeast infection and my friend said it was probably from wearing a pad for too long. I’m wondering what the difference is, since they’ve always seemed similar to me. How I can avoid future yeast infections?
-Confused about Candida 

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This question was originally asked October 1st, 2013

Do you kegel?

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“Like many women my age, I grew up on an unhealthy-but-steady diet of Cosmo magazines filled with articles like “How to Please Your Man” and “The Sex Positions that Will Blow His Mind. So the first time I heard of kegels, they were presented as this magical trick used to surprise any man with my incredibly tight love muscles! I was only thirteen (and didn’t have a man) but Cosmo was the Bible, so I took it very seriously…

To learn more about Kegels and their benefits read the rest of this article in The Link!

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This question was originally asked September 10, 2013

“In bed, everyone’s able.” – documentary on Sex and Disability

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The Last Taboo conveys a captivating and comforting story of six people with different physical disabilities and a fit partner who was in a relationship with one of them.

These persons share their outlooks on affection, connection, friendships, relationships and, according to their experiences, they share what they’ve learned about themselves. Basically, the overall idea of the film is that… “In bed, everyone’s able.”

The problem with the word “disability” is that it has a negative connotation from the get-go. It automatically implies that there’s something that somebody “can’t”, or something that somebody “isn’t”, and that becomes defining, foundational definition of the way somebody thinks of somebody and then it spills over everything including sexuality.

People will look at something and they’ll think it’s beautiful if it falls under certain guidelines and that is what puts so much stigma on the idea of someone with a disability being a sexual person, because people can’t quite connect the dots between the idea that someone has a non-normative body or presentation and the fact that they might be sexual.”

Via topdocumentraryfilms.com

Letters from Cheaters

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Part of a bigger project called THE LETTERS PROJECT, the LETTERS FROM CHEATERS blog is a collection of reader submitted stories about being unfaithful. The project has since closed, so you’re out of luck if you were looking to submit your own, but you can still read past submissions.

I’m a sucker for honest, revealing POV stories and if you are too then you should check it out!